In her mind, to love someone is to be 'in love' with them, wanting sex and all that entails. Georgia internalizes much of the stereotypical expectations for love and relationships, which I think is summarized in the book description very well: dating + sex = love.

I felt that this was very truthful in it's complexity and messiness. And that hint, as Georgia keeps moving forward in her journey, only grows. Throughout Georgia's trials to start a relationship you always see a tiny hint that she knows this isn't for her that sex/romance aren't what she wants. Oseman shows the confusion and heartache and relief that comes from a personal discovery such as what Georgia goes through. This is the part of the book that I loved the most. But she also finds herself, with this journey being hard but ultimately not surprising, in a way I think many queer people experience. But Georgia's determined to get her life right, with the help of (and despite the major drama of) her friends.Īlong the way, Georgia makes some poor decisions based on internalized expectations and societal expectations.

Disrupting the narrative that she's been told since birth isn't easy - there are many mistakes along the way to inviting people into a newly found articulation of an always-known part of your identity. It's not until she gets to college that she discovers the A range of the LGBTQIA+ spectrum - coming to understand herself as asexual/aromantic. She's surrounded by the narrative that dating + sex = love. This is the funny, honest, messy, completely relatable story of Georgia, who doesn't understand why she can't crush and kiss and make out like her friends do. since there are plenty of other ways to find love and connection. For fans of Love, Simon and I Wish You All the Best, a funny, honest, messy, completely relatable story of a girl who realizes that love can be found in many ways that don't involve sex or romance.įrom the marvelous author of Heartstopper comes an exceptional YA novel about discovering that it's okay if you don't have sexual or romantic feelings for anyone.

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